I wish I have these little details in my wedding someday

I haven't thought about my future wedding that much. Its been more about what I would like my dress to look like or how i would like to have my hair. This post will not be about what I will look like but rather the small details of the wedding. Also obviously there will me be and my husband to be planning this so everything is open to discussion and we all need to make sacrifices sometimes don't we? So yea, these are just ideas. =D

Church Wedding
I do not want a church wedding because the place looks nice or because of traditional reasons. I want a church wedding simply because I want to say my vows and be made one with my future husband in the eyes of God. I know that God sees everything and is everywhere but having a church wedding is a more symbolic way of doing it for me and it is important to me.

This Sign! 
I saw this picture and love it! Why do we have to sit on different sides? Two families are becoming one so why can't we sit wherever we want? Love the idea.

Wedding March
I love Canon in D. Absolutely love it. This video was the best version I found - might have to find these men to preform at my wedding someday!

Songs at Church
Since there's always songs that will be sung at church, I would want to pick them rather than having random ones. A definite one is In Christ Alone, it has such powerful lyrics. I think I would pick one song in English and one song in my language since not all my relatives speak English. 

No Alcohol - except the champagne for speeches and wine for food
I know everyone's idea now a days seems to be 'lets get drunk' at weddings. I do not want that. I don't want people drinking at my wedding and getting drunk. There will obviously be champagne for the speech and all that but that's it. Maybe wine for the food - depending on the food of course.

Brides Speech
Why not? My sisters wedding had a brides speech as well as a grooms speech and I loved the idea. I think it would be really cute! In addition I think I would ask in advance some people if they want to keep a speech. It might get dangerous and awkward to have an open mic! Eek.

Dancing
I'm not sure about this one but I'm definitely more for it that against it! So I'll decide depending on the space at the venue (and husbands opinion)! But it's romantic and cute and gives the couple time to talk and cuddle after all the tension! <3

I wish I was out in the rain right now.

My ideal place to be right now: outside, in rain thats not freezing, dark/gray-ish weather, and not near too many people. I wanna have a walk around right now in the cool rain. Rain is so peaceful. I love rain. I just have so much on my mind and just want to be alone for a bit. Everything about rain is refreshing. The smell, the touch, the look of it. Its so fresh and gets your mind off everything. I wouldn't mind taking a walk for like 30 minutes and come home soaked. I think I would feel so much better in all ways after that and just be ready for a good night sleep after that.

I wish love was like in the movies based on Nicholas Sparks

Here goes a post on love. Just love. This is really not like me but Nicholas Sparks books have just made me compare love in the stories with reality. In the movies based on Nicholas Sparks, love is appreciated and not taken for granted. The way the lovers value each other is just beautiful to watch. Maybe because in these movies people have to actually fight for love, they appreciate it so much. I wish I saw people truly loving each other endlessly like in these movies. I wish the looks we give to each other would be full of love and respect. I haven't watched all the movies shown below but they are all on my 'must see' list.

I love how in The Notebook Noah's and Allies love was playful and they had loads of fun together everyday. I wish that when I'm 40 I'll still be having fun and running around playfully with my future husband someday.

One thing you really don't see now a days is the love that lasts forever. Today everyone is just 'growing apart' and getting divorces. Whats with that anyway? Love is a choice and marriage is a choice, a choice to stay with the other person forever no matter what. SPOILER: In 'A Walk To Remember' Landon marries Jamie even though she has leukemia and they are pretty much high school students. He knows she will die soon but still goes for it because thats all that matters to him. You just don't see that too often anymore.

Another thing I love to see is people who truly appreciate each others presence. Isn't it adorable seeing couples run into each others arms sometimes. Doesn't really happen much but when it does, its such a Daaaw moment, especially if the couple is a bit of an older couple and not teenagers. 

One thing I think people should definitely do more, including me is fight and then get over it. Fights and arguments come and go, why not let it go and not make a huge deal out of little things. In fact why not make the effort to not start fights out of little things in the first place. Like the photo belows says 'but despite their differences, they had one important thing in common. They were crazy about each other.' 

When I think about it, I feel like I myself don't value love as much as I should. And to be honest, I should be thankful that I'm in the same country as my boyfriend in the first place. I think I will try change my behavior and learn to be a more caring and appreciating girlfriend. Perhaps love will be more like the movies then eh? Change always starts from oneself. :)

I wish I owned a longboard!

Thanks to my boyfriend who has taught me how to long board, I've kinda started liking it. But of course when I want to go long boarding, I can't be bothered to go to my boyfriends place and borrow his long board so yea, I wish I had my own!

I don't wanna go buy one though since I don't really have a permanent home for a few years now until I finish studying and yea, long boards aren't exactly cheap. I also want a long board only if I live in a kinda quiet neighborhood instead of a city (perfect place: Finland). 

So yes, I guess some day I will buy a long board! And when I do, I will stick tonnes of stickers on it and make it look like something that I own. Maybe already during my summers visiting Finland or then in 3 years when I move on with my life to perhaps a more permanent home somewhere.

I wish I'll never have to be separated from a loved one :(

Okay, I'm already separated from my family since I moved to Scotland now but that doesn't bother me much. I guess I'm used to not seeing them sometimes (okay maybe I miss them just a little bit...). But I wish I never never never will have to be separated from my boyfriend. That would be horrible. Just imagine being separated from someone you care about that much for like a year. That would take a lot of commitment, patience and love. 

Sad part is I'm probably gonna have to be separated from mine for at least a year at some point. He will have to do army and unless I go to Finland to wait for him to come visit every now and then, we will have to go long distance for a bit. It will be absolutely horrible. It's gonna be all about skype and mail. I think I would actually sit down and write a letter at that point. I guess its all part of being in a long distance relationship. I'm so not looking forward to it (if it ends up happening). =/

I wish I didn't have to proof to myself that I'm loved so much.

I feel like I push limits in order to find out if I'm accepted and loved. I feel like if I get upset I often harden my heart and push the limit just a bit or say something to see what the other person will do. Not like mean things but just something like not reacting to something that should be reacted to. I feel like maybe I try seek this need to be accepted. I think what would really proof something to me is if I could be really bitchy and do stupid things and just be a not nice person and still I would have someone be with me the entire day and not say one negative thing to me.

Stuff that I hate I also like to see if someone would do them to me. I hate being hung up the phone to. I hate being slammed the door at. I hate being insulted. I hate someone talking negatively about my loved ones. I hate it if someone get too close to something thats very important to me.  I think I often try see if someone close to me would do something to me that they know I hate, or they know I'll get hurt of. And I think I get really offended if someone does something to me that they know will make me unhappy and hurt me. Its the ugly truth I guess... I think I'm a difficult person. 


Whats with that anyway? Why do I have such a huge need to be proven that I'm loved sometimes?

I wish that I will grow old with that one person I choose to marry some day.

I'm used to people getting married and living together till they die. That's why the say 'till death do us part' right. In this modern world we live in tho there are lots of break-up's and divorce's being filed. That's because divorce is made an option. In my life I will not make divorce an option (lets hope my husband wont make it an option either). I have seen difficult marriages and I have come to the conclusion that when I get married, I will at least say my vows and mean them:


For better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.


I know that practically everyone say they mean their vows and how they will be together forever, etc. but seriously, no matter how huge the problem is, then why not have a sit down and fix it. One thing that's always important to remember is that no matter how hard it is, NEVER go to sleep without fixing your issues first. That's how I've lived my life so far, at least most of the time, and I plan to keep it that way. I've not being brought up with divorce being an option and I've seen that marriages WILL be hard, but that's how you learn about each other right? And that is the point.

Old couples are rare to see together now a days, especially the ones from which you can tell that they really love each other. Those are the ones that walk hand in hand, look at each other with loving eyes, help out each other and just be together. I just love seeing that and I really really really hope that I will be in that position myself one day. 

I wish guys expressed their love in those little cute but meaningful ways more and forever!

First of all i'll start off by saying im not directing this to anyone really, just a general view. So yea, enjoy. =P

Guys sometimes do those little things that make us girls smile and stay happy for ages like hug us from behind, pick us up to kiss us, put their arm around us in public, surprise us at a time when its most unexpected or just bring us a heart shaped donut to remind us that we are loved. Just little tiny things that will turn our world around for a moment. 

Another thing I think all of us love, is when a guy tells us something and we cant resist smiling. Its an amazing feeling. Usually its those cute things they say that they consider 'gay' and avoid saying. Well if any guy reads this..... be a man and tell your girl you love her in a different way than just 'i love you' always. You can easily tell if a girl gets impressed by this because atleast for me, I can't help smiling and you can just tell that you just made me real happy there. 

The one thing here that is a little scary though is that the little acts of love our boyfriends do to show us they care, will they last forever? Most people married say no or atleast it pretty much appears so, but then again some couples still find their togeather time everyday and remain in love throughout their lives. Thats what I want. I dont wanna get married and end up having a lame life. I want to have a life full of surprises that wont get boring and you never know what tomorrow will bring! <3<3<3